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The word ‘we’ is also used in a similar way when it comes to attributions, either in an inclusive way (‘we all believe…’) or as a means of excluding (‘we are different from the others’). Whether this does any favours for any of the people who are attributed is highly doubtful. The privileges of belonging usually have to be paid for at a high price, especially by obeying rules set by those who can bestow these special rights. The withdrawal of privileges is the way to put the

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pressure on and ensure that these rules are obediently followed. The needs for one’s own personal autonomy and the possibility of living from one’s own I with one’s own free will are then restricted.

When someone is excluded by means of attributions, this can be very painful or even life-threatening for them. For example, a child who is bullied in his class because he is supposedly ‘different’ feels very bad. He may even think of suicide.

THE I

In the context of my theory, the healthy I is the essential psychological factor. I define the healthy I as the reference point for all other psychological processes in a living human organism. If this central point of reference is missing, a human’s inner psychological unity is not possible. His life therefore proceeds with a faulty inner compass, which will spin sometimes in one direction and then in the other. A person’s life becomes aimless, haphazard and therefore easy to influence and control from the outside.