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‘We’ only talk to those who belong to our own group, who speak about ‘the others’ as something different from ‘us’. We stay in the company of those who are like us. And of course ‘we’ prefer to belong to those groups who are deemed good and progressive and to separate ourselves from those ’others’ who are

4 Unger, R. (2021). Der Verlust der Freiheit. Munich: Europa Verlag. (‘The Loss of Freedom’ has not been translated into English).

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supposedly evil, backward, bourgeois, conservative, radical right-wing, anti-Semitic, and so on. These ‘others’, of course, may see it the same way, only the other way round.

When we live our lives by identification, it is natural for us to crave the security of belonging to the ‘majority’ and not to any ‘minority’ that is pilloried by society. As well as the fear of not belonging, the shame of not being right and not living up to the expectations of others usually plays a major role in this.

Basically, all this is an illusory symbiotic state where any commonality is pretence - in reality it does not exist. The contrasts and differences that actually exist are glossed over and an attempt is made to cover them up with apparent similarities.